I've been having some health issues. The doctor is convinced that it is due celibacy lifestyle I'm having. The lack of sexual contact it is having a bad effect on my sexual reproductive health and my hormones. He believes that it will be cured with sexual activity with the other sex.
So, my question is: Would it be allowed for a young man to have a girlfriend, to have a sexual relationship to save one's sexual health from getting worse. I do not want to marry for real because for many reasons. 1.) reason being that I do not have the enomoic stability to afford me a family. 2.) Reason being that I did not meet the special person whom I would like to spend my whole life with.
With anything you do, if you are to be just, it can be beneficial to do things with consideration and responsibility involved. You must be able to honor and do justice towards anyone at all you are involved with in any way. The Qur'an says in its normal or usual translation that you are not required to marry or have sexual intercourse if you are not able to honor and do justice towards the partner. In that case, it is better to die than to do what is unjust or live in the way the Qur'an calls an evil way of life.
If you are not able to honor a partner, you are doing what is unjust towards them and very much acting against yourself. It is best to live a life free of blame so none can rightfully say you did wrong.
If you ever are to have intercourse with a woman, you should be obligated to her, and being obligated to her means being loyal and married, being able to support and defend her, not just use her for sex.
If what the doctor says is true, though it sounds more superstitious and based on nothing, similar to how Satan in the story tempts man with a "cure" for what isn't even a real problem, then you can simply masturbate and achieve the same results as sexual intercourse by stimulating your genitals and ejaculating without traumatizing or disrupting the life of any woman or acting wrongly towards one by not being or feeling properly loving and caring and able to care for and obligated to her and able to do the most justice towards her. Marriage and sex is all about honor and justice, and the best husband is one who wants to and is able to truly treat his wife with the most love, care, consideration, kindness, mercy, and gifts and benefits and total loyalty.
Aviel, I don't think marrying for "health reasons" is an option. Whatever that means.
In Sectarian Islam, people are asked to hold back their sexuality until they have the mean to marry. That's when they're allowed to let their sexuality out.
But in my opinion, people should control their sexuality, look beyond it throughout their life, and only marry when they want to start a family. If you have sexuality as an option in mind, then you're likely to "fall in love" with every attractive girl you meet out there. This will hold you back and constantly drive you into the level of an animal, or even lower.
To help you with your issue I need more elaborate details regarding it. What kind of health problems are we talking about here?
One issue is the production of sperm in the testicles and it is hard to exactly say what stimulates it, but there are likely multiple factors involved. I am concerned that sexual mental stimulus may cause an increase in the production. Frequent ejaculation does increase production and only causes further issues and is not a solution. This causes there to be a problem to entirely stop the activity since there may be like a factory which is about to explode because no one is removing the cargo and the mechanism to stop production seems unstoppable. When the "bags" are full this causes an immense distraction and may also even ache a bit and arguably one may become ill because of biological imbalance of keeping the "factory" filled above the limit.
So the solution is to diminish everything which stimulates the production "down there"
It is wrong to say you outright require sexual stimulation, that is to have lost the rebellion towards the bodily cravings already. It is dangerous to tell yourself "once will probably not do any harm" and then you catch yourself doing it more frequently than you were thinking.
It is helpful to deal with the cravings through some diversion of attention to the mind, such as forcing your thoughts to wander to something else. If you grow controlling in willpower you will even be able to talk to your own body in your head to "stop the sexual activity now!" and the body will obey like a dog. You must not forget you are two, it is your soul inside an animal even if you may be confused you are one, so thinking very strongly with a wish to the body will perhaps surprisingly to you be obeyed, the body will stop its craving, like a dog which stops begging for food at the table after commanding it. Being in absolute command of your body is level two in these teachings of mine.
Aviel: Immanuel, Thank You very much for the work you do. Thank you for your insight, IM SINCERELY THANKFUL! There are people to whom your work is very important, and I can and will raise my hand for being one of them.
Jul 31, 2017 10:29:55 GMT
Immanuel: You are welcome, hansolo. It is for your sake that I am doing it primarily, but I am also a bit curious myself regarding the underlying lore. Persistent research and critical thinking has led to a great breakthrough.
Aug 13, 2017 19:08:46 GMT
nullandvoid: Wondering what a future with only non-dualistic people would be like?
Jan 28, 2018 14:53:12 GMT
Immanuel: Symbiotic existence, like a permanent telepathic coexistence. This is why humans are placed to learn to coexist on Earth on a very basic level and even with marriages, in order to be ready for a greater union by developing from there.
Feb 2, 2018 21:32:19 GMT
Immanuel: Our challenge here is Homo sapiens' self-preservation and other instinctive drives/motivations, which makes people think in "dualistic" ways.
Feb 2, 2018 21:34:12 GMT
hftwo: Immanuel do you believe that You will be able to do "Godly" things during this Immanuel-life-time? Because I do think if Jesus said that you will. e able to do these things and even greater! But logically thinking to get Godlike powers...
Oct 4, 2018 10:48:45 GMT
hftwo: ... one needs to become perfect /totally complete as a being. I do not count on my self, because it seems like the sex commandment is something that I usually break.
Oct 4, 2018 10:49:35 GMT
hftwo: How can I count myself as a perfect being if I cannot control the reproduction urges of the body?
Oct 4, 2018 10:50:10 GMT
hftwo: But at the same time, I do not want to be a human any longer, I do not want to be weak any longer.
Oct 4, 2018 10:50:49 GMT
cerulean: learning to live each day as the last i.e giving our best at each moment, not allowing for sloppiness in thinking and doing, not even for a second. Not allowing the postponing of what should be done
Oct 10, 2018 18:51:29 GMT
cerulean: We should learn to do that, and then all other things will be easier. By adopting a way of being instead of just focusing on abolishing those apparent wrong acts such as masturbation.
Oct 10, 2018 18:55:42 GMT
Immanuel: I might seem to prescribe impossible goals, but I also say that we do reside in a creature which is an animal and you will not be rid of its functionality without killing it and the creature as an animal has needs which are inevitable.
Nov 4, 2018 21:01:04 GMT
Immanuel: What the "Ten Commandments" counteract is the enslaving effects of the body. Furthermore, I am still not convinced about what the seventh command says as it probably says "unnecessary sex". Jesus gave a recommendation of not even looking upon a woman.
Nov 4, 2018 21:05:37 GMT
Immanuel: Jesus' word of not even looking upon a woman (or man) suits that of no unnecessary sex. It is about that sexual trigger in the mind which is spoke of. Pay attention to that translators usually add "other" within parentheses, meaning it is about ANY woman.
Nov 4, 2018 21:11:06 GMT
Immanuel: "but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Matthew 5:28 NASB
Nov 4, 2018 21:17:55 GMT
cerulean: Right, so one should probably adopt an entire way of living, instead of focusing on one thing, because many other things can lead to that one thing you are trying to keep away from.
Nov 5, 2018 12:44:38 GMT
Immanuel: Yes, this is about a way of living rather than a dumb set of rules. People have incorrectly referred to the so-called 'Ten Commandments' as laws to uphold for the sake of worship, but this is wrong. They are guidelines in order to maintain a conscious lif
Nov 5, 2018 18:38:31 GMT
Immanuel: Unfortunately the first lines of the Commandments were distorted so badly it looks like they sanction religious worship. While they seem to promote relinquishing the mind, the truth is they that say the straight opposite.
Nov 5, 2018 18:43:25 GMT
hftwo: Just "Be" is that simple
Jan 11, 2019 12:54:40 GMT
hftwo: You have everything You need, You have Yourself, or is it?
Jan 11, 2019 12:55:25 GMT