Aviel
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Post by Aviel on May 9, 2017 19:31:31 GMT
Hi everyone,
I've been having some health issues. The doctor is convinced that it is due celibacy lifestyle I'm having. The lack of sexual contact it is having a bad effect on my sexual reproductive health and my hormones. He believes that it will be cured with sexual activity with the other sex.
So, my question is: Would it be allowed for a young man to have a girlfriend, to have a sexual relationship to save one's sexual health from getting worse. I do not want to marry for real because for many reasons. 1.) reason being that I do not have the enomoic stability to afford me a family. 2.) Reason being that I did not meet the special person whom I would like to spend my whole life with.
Thanks for your input, in advance!
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Post by iscariot on May 10, 2017 9:20:07 GMT
With anything you do, if you are to be just, it can be beneficial to do things with consideration and responsibility involved. You must be able to honor and do justice towards anyone at all you are involved with in any way. The Qur'an says in its normal or usual translation that you are not required to marry or have sexual intercourse if you are not able to honor and do justice towards the partner. In that case, it is better to die than to do what is unjust or live in the way the Qur'an calls an evil way of life.
If you are not able to honor a partner, you are doing what is unjust towards them and very much acting against yourself. It is best to live a life free of blame so none can rightfully say you did wrong.
If you ever are to have intercourse with a woman, you should be obligated to her, and being obligated to her means being loyal and married, being able to support and defend her, not just use her for sex.
If what the doctor says is true, though it sounds more superstitious and based on nothing, similar to how Satan in the story tempts man with a "cure" for what isn't even a real problem, then you can simply masturbate and achieve the same results as sexual intercourse by stimulating your genitals and ejaculating without traumatizing or disrupting the life of any woman or acting wrongly towards one by not being or feeling properly loving and caring and able to care for and obligated to her and able to do the most justice towards her. Marriage and sex is all about honor and justice, and the best husband is one who wants to and is able to truly treat his wife with the most love, care, consideration, kindness, mercy, and gifts and benefits and total loyalty.
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Post by cerulean on May 10, 2017 11:16:30 GMT
Aviel, I don't think marrying for "health reasons" is an option. Whatever that means. In Sectarian Islam, people are asked to hold back their sexuality until they have the mean to marry. That's when they're allowed to let their sexuality out. But in my opinion, people should control their sexuality, look beyond it throughout their life, and only marry when they want to start a family. If you have sexuality as an option in mind, then you're likely to "fall in love" with every attractive girl you meet out there. This will hold you back and constantly drive you into the level of an animal, or even lower.
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Post by Immanuel on May 10, 2017 12:04:24 GMT
Cerulean puts it forth fairly well here.
To help you with your issue I need more elaborate details regarding it. What kind of health problems are we talking about here?
One issue is the production of sperm in the testicles and it is hard to exactly say what stimulates it, but there are likely multiple factors involved. I am concerned that sexual mental stimulus may cause an increase in the production. Frequent ejaculation does increase production and only causes further issues and is not a solution. This causes there to be a problem to entirely stop the activity since there may be like a factory which is about to explode because no one is removing the cargo and the mechanism to stop production seems unstoppable. When the "bags" are full this causes an immense distraction and may also even ache a bit and arguably one may become ill because of biological imbalance of keeping the "factory" filled above the limit.
So the solution is to diminish everything which stimulates the production "down there"
It is wrong to say you outright require sexual stimulation, that is to have lost the rebellion towards the bodily cravings already. It is dangerous to tell yourself "once will probably not do any harm" and then you catch yourself doing it more frequently than you were thinking.
It is helpful to deal with the cravings through some diversion of attention to the mind, such as forcing your thoughts to wander to something else. If you grow controlling in willpower you will even be able to talk to your own body in your head to "stop the sexual activity now!" and the body will obey like a dog. You must not forget you are two, it is your soul inside an animal even if you may be confused you are one, so thinking very strongly with a wish to the body will perhaps surprisingly to you be obeyed, the body will stop its craving, like a dog which stops begging for food at the table after commanding it. Being in absolute command of your body is level two in these teachings of mine.
Be well Qarael Amenuel
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